Welcome Friends and Classmates to PATH

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June 2024  circles will be:

June 23, 6 pm EST  Community Circle for concerned alumni

June 30, 6 pm EST Survivors only Circle

 

New PATH Initiative: Creating an institute to research and promote better practices for addressing sexual abuse

When the justice system doesn’t work, communities are not protected, nobody wins.

We know what doesn’t work, the expertise is available to develop what does.

Building Justice: Survivors Take the Lead with Dr. Charol Shakeshaft and Dr. Judith Herman

Please consider supporting this effort with:

Donations to PATH

Volunteer skills in:

  • Grant writing

  • Fund raising

  • Promotion

Take action, support survivors and a safer campus for all.

September Special Event: Dr. Judith Herman with Dr. Charol Shakeshaft, Community Safety and Sexual Misconduct: What Works, What Doesn’t

Did you miss this event and wish to get the recording? If so, register here for the recording.

A gift from PATH and our alumni allies to the Exeter community. PATH is sponsored this event to engage the community, support dialogue, and come together on the issue of sexual misconduct.Dr Herman and Dr. Shakeshaft used their research to bring the reality of what the legal system can and cannot do when addressing sexual misconduct win community. Their most significant points are that the legal system retraumatizes those who have been victimized and fails in accountability and actions of protection for the community. Dr. Sakeshafts conclusion for her nearly 40 years of researching school’s response to sexual misconduct is not one has been effective. She has raised the question of what gets sacrificed in the moral community when legal defense lawyers whose sole job is to defend the finances of a school. The Exeter community can do better than this. Let us be the leaders our Exeter community can be. We are a school that has gathered some of the best and brightest from all over the world for 250 years. Let us use all that we have and all that we are to find resolutions needed for this problem. Please contact PATH  to get involved.

About PATH:

Phillips Exeter Academy Alumni for Truth & Healing (PATH) created this website to keep connected with our community as we respond to our school and encourage alignment to values of goodness through  collaboration and innovation. We are a growing organization advocating for change with and for Phillips Exeter Academy through action for alumni sexually harmed. The PATH Survivor Support Fund initiated  by concerned alumni speaks to the potential for engagement and support within the Exeter community. We will continue to post resources on this site and update our actions, initiatives, and relevant news stories about Exeter’s response to sexual misconduct both historical and current. For updates of Exeter in the news see here. Please also see out instagram @exeterpath. For resources see here.

Mission 

PATH believes that the Exeter community will be strengthened by the Academy’s acknowledgment of the harm that has occurred to sexual misconduct victims, by reconciliation with alumni whose lives have been inextricably altered by their experience, while restoring and reseeding trust in our community through ensuring it is one that is increasingly safer, responsive, learning, and growing.

We believe that Exeter has the opportunity and responsibility to lead the way in creating pathways for recognizing and responding to reports of harm, and healing for those who are harmed, consistent with in loco parentis and Exeter’s charter to instill the highest morality in its students,  by setting the example of accountably and responsibility as remedy of harm caused to individuals and our community.

Read the full Mission Statement here.

The PATH Fund for Survivors

To those who have generously given, Thank You. The financial grants are truly only part of what the Fund offers Exeter survivors. Your care and support in this issue is immeasurable. Experiencing the respect of fellow alumni is sometimes even more healing for many survivors. Abuse is about the loss of power and control, and healing is the supported return of power and control within a community that cares.

The PATH Fund provides an opportunity to put non sibi into action. The PATH Survivor Support Fund exists to support individual survivors of abuse at Exeter with therapy expenses in particular. Run through FJC, an established philanthropic organization in New York City, donations to the Fund enjoy the same tax treatment as those to a 501(c)(3) charity. The Fund is currently supporting several survivors with therapy, one is receiving support with housing. Monthly distributions at this time are nearly $3,500 and we hope to continue these monthly grants as needed and to help other Exeter survivors with the costs of therapeutic care and basic living expenses when needed.

Read about the PATH Fund for Survivors here.

“I never knew how healing this alumni community could be”

“Something wonderful has happened, I was able to find a therapist I trust enough to work with, and to be vulnerable and open about what I experienced for the first time. I am still not in a place where I am ready to come forward about my experience, but the therapy is helping enormously.”

Please consider becoming a monthly supporter. It means so much to your fellow alums in their path to healing.

Our Ongoing Work:

PATH is actively pursuing a more definitive and collaborative solution with the Academy to support the needs of survivors without either adversarial mediation or litigation. We are working toward a mutually beneficial process that will address survivors’ ongoing needs and provide an option more aligned with thee words of our schools’s founder, John Phillips: Goodness without knowledge… is weak and feeble, yet knowledge without goodness is dangerous.”

PATH is deeply appreciative for the ongoing alumni support. We need every voice to insist that Exeter fully acknowledge the sexual abuse and misconduct, be sincere in accountability and work genuinely with survivors toward a safe, non-adversarial nob re-traumatizing process for support when it is needed. We believe this is what will ultimately make our whole community better and safer.

Click here for more information.

We believe our school can do better: Exeter’s Response to Sexual Abuse: 1/13/23